I can’t help but notice that the “good
guys” always have some corny line opening or something uninteresting to talk
about once you finally give them your number. I don’t like bad guys per say.. but
it’s hard to like a good guy. I know you know why but let me break this down
for those of you who don’t. The average good guy is a push over.. he always
over does everything to satisfy you to the point that he is absolutely boring
as hell. Not to mention (depending on the type of girl you are and you know if
you possess the looks, skills, and sassiness overall) he is usually so damn insecure.
No matter how you say I’m leaving this inside man (see first blog) alone to be
with someone who will treat me like I deserve to be treated you get the nice
guy & end up not being happy at all. What the hell is the problem? Is there
no median?? You have to take the good with the bad..but who wants to be miserable
all in the name of love? Damned if you do, damned if you don’t *sighs* truly mind
boggling to say at the least.
As women we always like to feel as if
the guy has changed. We stay with the bad guy praying that one day we can say “he
changed for me”. Why don’t we like the guy who doesn’t need to be changed,
tamed, or beat upside the head with a frying pan? Simple. It’s the thrill of
all the drama and nonsense that comes along with the bad boys. We could be in a
relationship with two men. One who wants to marry us, buy a house, and move
away to start a family, and one who has commitment issues, lives with his mammy,
and makes you get an abortion every time he doesn’t pull out on time. Who do you think gets more attention? Surely
not the one who treats you like a queen…because he is so repetitive and just
too damn nice.
I don’t know if it’s a cure for this
need of just a little bit of “aint shitness” syndrome. But, I do know this. The
guy who never forgets to text you good morning everyday & good night every
evening, treats you with respect even though you ignore most of his text messages,
cheers you up when the other guy hurts your feelings, compliments every
hairstyle or every outfit you have ever put on, remembers your favorite color,
your hobbies, and the co-worker you can’t stand name should be the one you’re
checking for. We complain about alllll of these ain’t shit men in the world but
then when we finally find someone who takes the time to learn us, love us &
care…we call them our bff or we get them, use & abuse them & turn them
into everything he wasn’t for the next broad.
Even if your man isn’t like the
inside man and he is indeed your man does that exempt him from being someone
you shouldn’t be with? It definitely does not. You know what’s acceptable &
what’s not; you know the situations that you’re too ashamed to tell your
friends about? Well, it shouldn’t be that many situations like that. YES, uncertainty can be exciting. The bad guy does possess
desired traits and this makes him appealing, but NO we shouldn’t fail to see his
BAD intentions. Now, of course every theory can be misconstrued. I’m not saying
every corny guy who appears to be nice is in fact a good guy! I’m not saying
that the bad guy won’t change for you when you threaten to leave. All I’m
saying is to think with your head & not with your heart. Funny how we can
know when our phone bill is due but still wait until the day of.. or until it
gets cut off before we pay it.
