Women,Women,Women: 7 Things Women Want Us Men To Know

Date Night. If you're planning on taking a woman on a date. Please plan everything. Don't keep asking us "what do you want to do" its annoying as hell & it's just something sexy about a man who knows how to be in control without being a jerk.

Do it & Die. I like to call this the long walk home process. This is typically when a woman says either "go ahead", "I don't care what you do" or the infamous "if that's what you want to do" All of these are damn lies. The more nonchalant it appears the risk of you doing it is even more dangerous. Women hate having to tell a "man" what he should or shouldn't be doing constantly. Use your own judgement & remember if she ever says "if that's what you want to do" and says your first name at the end instead of "baby" or any other pet name she usually calls you. Do it & Die.

When you're out without us, don't have too much fun. Now this may come as no shock, but when we say "have fun baby" when you're going out we want you to have fun but not "come home talking about how much fun you had all week"..kind of fun. Lol..no seriously.

Every woman is not insecure. We just know what some men/women are capable of. It's so annoying to hear men say "you're being insecure" when being approached about something that's bothering us. Stop, listen, think, react, then compromise. Soothe our worries with kind words. Always remember 'There's a special place in hell for men who convince women their intuition is insecurity to protect their duplicity'

Hey boo. You know that little game you played to get us & our attention? We didn't forget. Please don't use these tactics on social networks & think you're low. We see you & ain't nothing worst than seeing your man in another chick's instagram comments.

Be consistent.  As the relationship grows certain things get taken for granted. Don't forget the little things. You would be surprised what a "good morning beautiful" text would do to your queen's day. Encourage us daily & be there to support us in any way possible. We don't want perfect we just want someone who is worth overlooking their flaws. Try not to "forget" because it only takes that one time for someone else to remember.

Explore her sexually. Keep the sex spontaneous. Kisses don't just go on the lips..put a finger here or there. Lick there and everywhere.Your job is to find out what we don't know we need, but do need. Then make sure we know you're the only person who has it.

Spring Flings Amongst Other Things

Ladies, warm weather has now approached us, also known as allergy & men acting up season. So don't be surprised if you feel single in a few days.

Although, chicks do cheat as well, guys are more prone to cheating in the spring/summer because they’re more likely to stray in general.  What did summertime mean when we were kids? No school, lots of freedom & fun. This same attitude carries over into our adulthood & make us feel like the usual rules doesn't apply.

Go ahead & admit to yourself. Relationships takes the most "breaks" during the summer. When the temperature goes up..clothes come off. Guys see chicks in maxi dresses, booty shorts & bathing suits and lose their damn minds.

Please take into consideration I can't speak for the entire male population but I can say that even if you can't admit to me, you should admit to yourself that things can change between the two of you. So I've taken the liberty of coming up with a few tips..

1.) Stay in the gym. Keep your outter appearance together at all times not just for him but for you. It'll make you feel better about yourself.
2.) Don't try to prevent him from going out..instead you go have some fun too.
3.)  Don't stalk his life trying to keep him from having fun or cheating. Keep yourself busy & have him wondering what you're doing as well.

4.)Make sure he sets aside time for you. I know how busy the summer can get, but make sure he knows without you telling him that you need boo time.

I'm hoping this helps out the clueless & confirms what the vets already knows. Until next time..Keep your ears & eyes open & your freakum dress close by

Struggles of a Single Girl...

     
       Accept or dismiss.. the story of a single girl's life. One false move and you're forever scarred or even worst..you become a bitter Betty. Contrary to popular belief.. giving out your number, going on a date, and having sex with someone can change your entire life including changing who you can & cannot associate yourself with from that point on. If you're going to accept you have to be very selective being that it would clearly be annoying as hell to have alot of "so what do you look for in a guy" text in your inbox. If you dismiss; you could be missing out on great potential.
    So let's just say you're at an event...every guy who glances your way & approaches you hopes you don't embarrass them by not giving the number up. You eventually get tired of saying "I have a boyfriend" since it doesn't mean anything anyway to the savages & indulge in a funny & harmless convo making you notice potential. So you exchange numbers with him. You begin texting him & liking how fast he responds to your text..this is perfect since you don't like talking on the phone so of course you two end up going on date. On the date, you notice there isn't any spark, nothing he says is keeping you interested in the conversation and now you're anxious to get home so you can subtweet about the boring date. Leaving the restaurant you spot some onlookers but very familiar faces.  "Damn" you say to yourself.. "please don't let them see me".. and right in the middle of your panic he turns to you and says "let me go holla at my homies for a minute be right back" & plants a kiss on your lips. Wait, he hadn't touched you during the date at all and now all of a sudden he's gotten the urge to kiss you??? You barely move because you're shocked by his actions. Then you remember there are witnesses, you recheck the food dish & picstich of your fly ass outfit you uploaded on instagram earlier & noticed he's uploaded one as well with part of your shirt in the picture & it's gotten more than 40 likes...what to do? No matter what you do you have just been seen out "hugged up & kissing" some guy, what you thought? You know people exaggerate everything! So now you have a "man".
Now the flip side of this. You meet a guy, text him, love his convo, enjoy spending time with him, the sex is good & you begin losing interest in everybody else. You stop giving out your number under the impression things maybe getting serious even though you just met his ass 3 weeks ago. But "so what", you think within those 3 weeks you've managed to spend almost everyday together.."he has to be feeling the same way." During the 4th week you notice he's becoming distant.. so you text him "what's going on with us" he unapologetically text back "us? I didn't know there was an us, we just been kicking it..and now I think we should slow down cause you're developing feelings that I'm not ready for..we're just moving too fast."
   You're more than crushed. You have been telling your girls about him, tweeting about him, instagraming pics of the places you've gone with him, and have been only texting and calling him since the two of you have been hanging out.
This is a vicious cycle for a single girl, we date, figure out we don't like the person, get spotted & assumptions are made. Or, we meet a guy, spend too much time in a short period & fall hard & strong for him. It's not that its planned & you're clingy.. it just sort of happens.
   Now if you're attractive & single..you're a hoe anyway. And if you're always in a relationship you're insecure & can't live without a man. We can't win. No sense in trying to argue with society. Lmao.
So what do you do??? You invest your time into something that will better you. "Love on your own time" in the words of a good friend.. when everything rises and sets on your ass disappointments won't be as disappointing.. & if all else fails. Do you but remember.... Perception can very well be reality.
Until next time...

Mr. Nice Guy..Would You Go Away? Please.

         I can’t help but notice that the “good guys” always have some corny line opening or something uninteresting to talk about once you finally give them your number. I don’t like bad guys per say.. but it’s hard to like a good guy. I know you know why but let me break this down for those of you who don’t. The average good guy is a push over.. he always over does everything to satisfy you to the point that he is absolutely boring as hell. Not to mention (depending on the type of girl you are and you know if you possess the looks, skills, and sassiness overall) he is usually so damn insecure. No matter how you say I’m leaving this inside man (see first blog) alone to be with someone who will treat me like I deserve to be treated you get the nice guy & end up not being happy at all. What the hell is the problem? Is there no median?? You have to take the good with the bad..but who wants to be miserable all in the name of love? Damned if you do, damned if you don’t *sighs* truly mind boggling to say at the least.

         As women we always like to feel as if the guy has changed. We stay with the bad guy praying that one day we can say “he changed for me”. Why don’t we like the guy who doesn’t need to be changed, tamed, or beat upside the head with a frying pan? Simple. It’s the thrill of all the drama and nonsense that comes along with the bad boys. We could be in a relationship with two men. One who wants to marry us, buy a house, and move away to start a family, and one who has commitment issues, lives with his mammy, and makes you get an abortion every time he doesn’t pull out on time.  Who do you think gets more attention? Surely not the one who treats you like a queen…because he is so repetitive and just too damn nice.

       I don’t know if it’s a cure for this need of just a little bit of “aint shitness” syndrome. But, I do know this. The guy who never forgets to text you good morning everyday & good night every evening, treats you with respect even though you ignore most of his text messages, cheers you up when the other guy hurts your feelings, compliments every hairstyle or every outfit you have ever put on, remembers your favorite color, your hobbies, and the co-worker you can’t stand name should be the one you’re checking for. We complain about alllll of these ain’t shit men in the world but then when we finally find someone who takes the time to learn us, love us & care…we call them our bff or we get them, use & abuse them & turn them into everything he wasn’t for the next broad. 

    Even if your man isn’t like the inside man and he is indeed your man does that exempt him from being someone you shouldn’t be with? It definitely does not. You know what’s acceptable & what’s not; you know the situations that you’re too ashamed to tell your friends about? Well, it shouldn’t be that many situations like that. YES, uncertainty can be exciting. The bad guy does possess desired traits and this makes him appealing, but NO we shouldn’t fail to see his BAD intentions. Now, of course every theory can be misconstrued. I’m not saying every corny guy who appears to be nice is in fact a good guy! I’m not saying that the bad guy won’t change for you when you threaten to leave. All I’m saying is to think with your head & not with your heart. Funny how we can know when our phone bill is due but still wait until the day of.. or until it gets cut off before we pay it.

I love you, I just can't stand your BABY MAMA!

         














 The drama the drama these got damn baby mamas. Mannn, They never let go. No matter how long they haven't been with their child's father they will still create hell for the new chick he's dealing with. Whyyyyy???  Don't fret because it baffles us all.  I think we have all been with a guy who has a child and an annoying ass baby mama. No matter how nice you try to be towards her and their seed she gives your man a hard time. How many times have you had to stay home while he goes to pick the child up? How many stares of death have you been given when she sees you? Yet & still we keep our peace....just so you wouldn't be the reason he ends up not being able to see his child. Now. I'm a baby mama. I've never been the typical one though. So let me talk my shit. The average baby mama didn't have that baby because she doesn't believe in abortions. She had that baby because she felt like whatever he has is what she's trying to get for the rest of her life. And you are now ruining her happily ever after. No matter how evident it is he has moved on 9 times out of 10 he's still soothing her to stay off of child support..no matter what that soothing may entail. 
      Now I can't say that all men with children are dealing with their baby mama, but don't be a fool either. If she doesn't want to let him go & he wants to continue maintaining the peace aka "just ignore her baby" there is no way in the hell your relationship will last. All women have a little bit of crazy in them but baby mamas have a different kind of crazy. They have that stalk your entire life, slash your tires, & do WHATEVER it takes to keep their family intact kind of crazy. I also want to say. They're all not acting crazy for no reason. You have to pay close attention to the details of their relationship. Be mindful & considerate of the fact that he has to maintain a relationship with the mother of his child. How close is too close? Well if he claims he doesn't want her to know about you or claims that you can't meet their child after a substantial amount of time then cut his ass off. That means that he's not being direct about her place in his life. Don't fall for the whole "she know I don't want to be with her" hoopla. It's never that apparent. A short message to you crazy baby mamas. You're only hurting your child by keeping them away from their father because of the differences between the two of you. Every child deserves 2 parents..you could never take the place of the father..just double the mother. Since its not every day that men want to be a part of their child's life don't make your child suffer because you don't know when to let go or how to handle your emotions.
     

Loving the "Inside Man"

"When I'm good and ready, I'm gonna walk right through the front door".

 

For years, I've never known what love had in store for me. Afraid of it...calling myself monogamously unfit because a person can only be as faithful as their options..no? Breaking hearts everywhere...wanting what I want when I wanted it no matter who I had to hurt to get it. Open off the thought of love...it sounds more appealing than it actually is...or does it? Welp..that usually comes to an end once we meet the mysterious one..the one who you just can't seem to figure out but you can't live without. The one who doesn’t jump to every command or answer to every beck & call. We all have that one person who we could never conquer..No matter how fine and bad you are, no matter how good your sex and head game is, no matter how good of a chef you are, no matter how supporting and loving you are...He would only give you just enough (which could be mental or physical) to be able to come back whenever he feels like it no title, no commitment, no nada.

     

     Well I call this kind the "Inside Man"...for years he's studied you and figured out that although you might have changed for him you still are not good enough to be more than whatever he's giving you. He would make love to you, question you, may even take you out, show little signs of jealousy, and be there for you whenever you want to talk. But as soon as you mention wanting more...he declines and you say to yourself and your friends "I'm threw with his ass" but you really can't let go. He doesn't call, he doesn't text you and he's showing you that he doesn't care but you still don't take it for what it is. All your friends hate his ass and can't seem to figure out why you can't see the aint shitness. Eventually, amping you up to leave him alone for some time..but when you finally see him again after a week, month, year or whatever..all of the same feelings come back and you say to yourself this time it's going to be different..one night aint gone kill me.. because you don't feel as weak and hey he has great sex. 

    He knows you better than you know yourself at this point. He knows what he has to do in order to get what he wants and for however long he wants it. In your mind, you're convinced he still cares about you because he keeps coming back but all he does is steal. He steals your heart, mind, and body. His truths are lies, his behavior is an act, and whenever he gets tired of you he gets the hell on…if this sounds at all familiar then yep, you’re or were a victim of the “Inside Man”.